An Ifop’s survey questioning men who ejaculate prematurely showed that this is a mass phenomenon that is a cause of marital breakdown widely underestimated by men, and that it remains a taboo subject in their relationship, as well as in their relationship with the medical profession.
Premature ejaculation is an emission of sperm that occurs at the beginning of penetration, or even before it. Like erectile dysfunction, this phenomenon disturbs sexual intercourse. Although frequent, this disorder is still taboo in society and in couples, as evidenced by the numerous studies conducted over the years. The most recent, an Ifop survey conducted on a representative sample of 1,957 men for the Charles.co platform, highlights the difficulties that the society has in dealing with this type of pathology with a health professional and the tendency to use various behavioral methods that are sometimes ineffective or risky.
Thus, 80% of respondents have already experienced this sexual dysfunction and, for most of them, it still affects them today: 71% of men admit to having ejaculated too quickly during coitus in the last twelve months. Almost a third (31%) admit to having ejaculated before penetrating their partner and the majority (59%) admit to having ejaculated at the time of penetration or shortly afterwards. Not making penetration last is also a source of generalized anxiety: almost two out of three men admit that they were concerned about their ability to hold back before their partner reaches orgasm.
No dialogue, consequences for the couple
“While the importance given to the problems of premature ejaculation reflects the awareness of female pleasure, it is also a symptom of an overestimation of marital sexuality in conjugal development, which goes hand in hand with a cult of male sexual performance often measured by simple criteria, such as the ability to have an erection and last,” says François Kraus of Ifop. A feeling of shame that is reflected in men’s unwillingness to talk about this type of problem: just over a third of men talked about it with their partner (36%) and even fewer consulted a health professional (16%).
According to François Kraus, “the difficulty of accepting that they do not fit the model of the “man” capable of “satisfying his partner” at a time when the principle of reciprocity of pleasures between spouses dominates is therefore a source of anxiety and shame for many men, all the more so since their aspirations in terms of penetration time are often well beyond biological norms…”. However, this sexual disorder can also have serious consequences for couples’ relationships, which often seem to be underestimated by men: 30% of women who have had a relationship with an early ejaculator say they have broken it off for this reason.
“Stop-Start”, “Squeeze”, techniques that leave little room for drugs
On the other hand, only 15% of men who have had this kind of problem believe that one of their partners has already broken up with them because of it. The other significant consequence is that the techniques that men use to delay ejaculation are rarely proven treatments. Among the most commonly used techniques, the so-called “Stop-Start” technique (66%), which simply consists of interrupting stimulation at each imminent ejaculation. Another technique used by 82% of men is to slow down.
Finally, about 11% of respondents used a retardant drug or product, the same percentage of men who used drugs (e.g. cannabis, cocaine…). “In this cultural context marked by the difficulty of men to verbalize these problems, finding a way to get men to talk to their doctors seems essential to reduce the under-medicalization of this pathology and its consequences: the use of ineffective, various or risky techniques, even if pharmacological or psychological treatments exist”, concludes François Kraus.